Dilemma: Your Needs Vs Others Needs – Which Comes First?

Dilemma: Your Needs Vs Others Needs – Which Comes First?

As a small business owner and entrepreneur when everything rests on your shoulders it is hard to balance your needs with those of others.

your needs vs others needs

The product or service you offer is always about your prospect and customer, not about you and what you do. On the other hand your time management is totally about you. Each day is a struggle to find a balance that brings you business success and at the same time personal efficiency.

A recent quote that came across my Facebook stream got me thinking about all this.

others first

As mother and grandmother, when I hear this I think of the safety instructions on an airplane. “Put your own oxygen mask on first and then help the person beside you.” You have to be selfish with your time and take care of yourself first, so that you then have the flexibility to take care of others. If you do the reverse and put others first, you won’t be able to help yourself.

On the other hand in business you want to be selfless with your attitude. You know that if your main focus is on helping others and being giving your will reap the reward manifold. When your focus is on the impact your income will be the result.

The Golden Rule is about reciprocity:  “Do unto others as you would have them do unto youand that is great for your personal life where it is all about you. Now how would this look in the business world where success is not about you, but about them. To be successful you require others. You need to help others reach their dreams if you want to reach yours. You need to connect to their memories, their desires. The Golden Rule in this situation would change to this: “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.”

  • Are you listening and understand before attempting to be understood?
  • Do you take time to listen and learn about others or are you more focused on your own agenda.

Finding this balance between being selfish and selfless, when your every move – what you do or don’t do, what you say or don’t say and how you say it is watched by others, is a constant balancing act that needs daily fine tuning.

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